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National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month

16 Oct

I did not realize it yesterday, but I believe October 15th was Infant Loss Awareness Day.  Our very first pregnancy ended in a miscarriage, and I was quite devastated.  When I found out I was pregnant, I immediately texted a picture of the positive test to all of our family members.  I blissfully dove in to the role of a pregnant woman and spent most of my time researching pregnancy stuff.  However, several weeks later, my little baby could not stick around and we suffered the painful loss, physically and mentally, of our first child.

I was in shock.  How could this happen?  Why me?  In the following days I turned my energy that I had spent investigating pregnancy information into investigating miscarriages.  I was surprised to find that 20% of pregnancies end in miscarriage, and 50% of conceptions end as well.  I couldn’t believe it.  That meant 1 out of every 5 normal women that I knew had had a miscarriage in their life!  Or, if a woman had 4 children, it was likely she had had a miscarriage as well!  I listened to the statistics my doctor gave me in utter disbelief.  She herself shared lovingly with me that she had suffered two miscarriages.  As I stared at a picture of her family – her, her husband, and two sweet smiling boys – I just could not process all the information.

Miscarriages are incredibly common as noted by the statistics.  I have one baby in heaven, a 16 month old toddler, and another sweet baby on the way next month.  While people who are not aware of pregnancy and all it entails might view me on the surface as just having “one kid,” the truth is, I already have THREE!  Wow, I am 27 years old and I am blessed to say I already have three kids.  True, one is no longer with us, and one is officially joining us in a few weeks, but in my heart there are three.  It makes a big difference to me to say “I have one kid” and “I have three kids.”  Even though I still miss our firstborn, I do not regret that pregnancy, because it gave me a child.  I have recently heard of women who have had four and eight miscarriages.  I would like to say that their little babies are precious and will never be forgotten.  I know this is a sensitive subject, but I would also like to lovingly encourage each woman and family who has suffered a loss to count themselves blessed for having so many children.

Psalm 127:4 Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one’s youth. Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them!